*42* Fresh Starts

Sometimes we need a new fresh start, sometimes we decide to have a one, and many times we pretend we got a one, and then we discover it wasn't really a new start but only a lie to one's self.

But now, I know it when I say it. I got it and can feel it :)

"I finally got my new fresh start I sought for completed" :)

Throughout a good uneasy experience, I decided to write some points that shall rap it up :)

1- "Fresh Start" is a decision, that should be taken in a stable state, not a happy one nor a miserable one.

2- The decision needs..

- a strong "need" for that Fresh Start,

(Why do you need it for?)

- a deep good intention to be taken

(So as to get God's help, and never doubt being you're on the right way) 

- a real strong reasonable belief that does not get affected by time or place,

(A Reason that answers the question: Why shall I keep going?)

- and a strong will to apply it.

(To resist Satan's, People's & Self's negative whispers )

3- "Fresh Starts" definitely state "Changes" that would take place in your life. "Changes" take "Time", and as long as it would take from you, as long as it would take place successfully.

4- Defining The Reason for having a new start, shall put a spot light on the problems you're facing.
Pick up the problems and State it down on a paper, and then go to the solving part where choices are found :)

5- Solutions are either direct or indirect.

Direct Solutions: It gets rid of the problems from its roots, however they are hard to be applied.

- Go to the problems you stated.
- Take each one separately.
- Find an applicable solution (means not science fiction solutions) for each.
- Apply Solutions in real life one by one, and make sure you give each one its needed time.

It goes like:
-- Solving Problem (in 2 weeks) or till it's over
-- Solving Problem 2 (in 10 days) or till it's over .. etc.

Indirect Solutions: It does not deal with the problem itself. It's more likeable to be applied but takes longer time.

-  It may be just the decrement of some current actions that cause you problems.
-  Or It may be just good actions, that has nothing to do with your problems, but to help you switching the path you're going through, help you to change your environment and get introduced to different  "better" livings. It leads you later to look back on to your problems with a totally different eye and more wisdom.

It goes like:
-- Decrement of -ve Habit 1.. till it ends
-- Increment of +ve Action 1 .. till it becomes a habit -- In Parallel with applying the previous step
-- Decrement of -ve Habit 2 .. till it ends -- In Parallel with applying the previous 2 step .. etc.

6- Always Renew your good intentions, and keep following good new habits.

7- Never worry about the results, but about the effort you pay :)

8- Patience is the magical key after all, so Have Faith. It'll come True InshaAllah :)
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Important to know:

*Changes include not only habits and actions, but people, places and attitude as well.
**Never decide for something when you're not in a stable state.
***You can do what only "you want to do" :)
***Be Close To Allah.Want it if you're not, Pray if you can not be, and he will help you greatly if you have both "the good intention and need" :)